background music, you mingle. it's a time to introduce the host and hostess to the people there. i think it's a nice time at the end of the cocktail hour to do a welcome or toast that you might do. so later on into the evening, you don't stop then the flow of the party. >> let me quickly ask you, we are talking a small party, not small, but say 20 people over to your house. should you stop and make a welcome for that kind of occasion, too? >> it is an occasion. if you are just having people over for an impromptu dinner party, no. if there's anuá occasion, a birthday, anniversary, whatever, it's nice to welcome your guests and celebrate and mention the sell bragsz. i think that's nice. timing to do that is very important. what happens is you start to build your party and when you begin to speak, even at a wedding or anywhere, it begins to level off.